I hope that 2018 was good to you and you’ve welcomed 2019 with open arms. 2018 was a rough year for me so I wanted to give a moment to focus on what happened in 2018. What worked? What didn’t work? Once I break down those things it becomes easier to decide what I want to focus on in the next year.
Alright, for 2018 let’s first talk about what worked. Something that really worked for me was learning how to open up emotionally. That might sound odd to some people, but I am not an emotionally extroverted person. I went through some stuff last year that made me realize that it’s okay to be emotional at the right times and that it can be a way to connect with those around me. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll never be a super emotional lady… it’s just not me. But I’m not scared to be open with the emotions that I’m feeling in the same way I was before.
Something else that worked really well for me was travelling. I used to travel very often and I haven’t too much in recent years. In 2018 we went to London and on several smaller trips and every single time I felt so invigorated. It was a good reminder to start travelling some more.
The last couple things on my list that worked were going to the gym and eating well. We started a routine of going to the gym every weekday morning and I love the way it makes me feel. I have a ton of energy, it starts my day on the right foot and it makes me want to make healthier choices for the rest of the day. And of course we have eating well. I know that when I eat whole plant based foods I feel so much better physically and mentally.
What Didn’t Work
Now we get to the less fun part, but it provides the most learning opportunity in my opinion. First on my list, and definitely the thing that impacted me the most this year, was my work/life balance. In a few words, it sucked. When I was thinking back on my year each month my thoughts were “oh, I worked a lot that month because of x, y, z…”. I don’t like that. I want to have a good work life balance where I am working a much more reasonable amount of hours and leaving work at work.
Next on my list is alcohol. Now, I don’t know if I’m just getting older, but the hangovers are realer than ever. Wow. This year I have started to notice that drinking too often is just making me feel gross. I still only have 3 beers on a maximum night, I was just starting to feel it way more. Living in Portland, OR, something that we do enjoy is drinking craft beers. I just realize that I need to be more cognizant about drinking and make sure that it’s not too often and that I feel good the next day.
Last on my list is quitting hormonal birth control. First off, I am very happy that I quit taking hormonal birth control. I did it because I was on the pill for almost 11 consecutive years and I wanted live more naturally and let my body do it’s own thing. The reason that this is on my “what didn’t work” list is because I did not properly fuel my body to balance my hormones after coming off the pill. I quit the pill in July, then I started to feel really bad around November and I finally realized what was happening to me and what I needed to work on in late December.
See why I like to lay out my what worked and what didn’t work for the previous year? It helps me set intentions to fix the things I don’t think are going well and to continue to do the things that made me happy. One thing that I do when I create goals/set intentions is to include how I will complete those goals. I think this is so important! It’s easy to make a list of things you want to do, but if you don’t include how you intend to do those things you might get lost along the way. Here is how I plan to meet my 2019 goals.
My first goal of 2019 is going to be to create a better work/life balance. This really affected me in 2018 and I intend to fix this in 2019 so that I can live my best life. The way that I intend to balance my work and personal life is to SAY NO. Say no when I don’t have time, say no to things I don’t want to be doing and say no to things that aren’t making me thrive. I already have a plan at work to transition out of a task that makes me very unhappy and into some tasks that make me thrive at work. I appreciate that my type of work allows me to have these choices and that my manager listens when I express an issue.
My next goal is to eat whole foods most of the time. This goes hand in hand with the quitting hormonal birth control issues. I have done a ton of research on how to naturally balance your hormones through vitamins, nutrients, and whole foods and I have been practicing this already. I am trying to find a balance in my hormones to help with acne, weight gain in my stomach area, increased anxiety, and sleepless nights. I am going to write a blog post on post hormonal birth control syndrome soon so stay tuned if you’re interested in this!
I want to continue to work on my mental health, and as you can see that goes in hand with my last goal since anxiety is my main issue. I plan on doing this by practicing daily meditation, which is something I currently do sporadically. I like the Breathe app for free guided meditation. It allows you to check in with mental and physical feelings and provides a mediation that works for what you’re feeling. You can even use this on your Amazon Echo! I also think that creating a better work/life balance will help me with my mental health.
Next on my list is to grow my website. So, if you’re reading this, thank you! Thank you for reading what I put work into and thank you for helping me continue to grow. I plan on growing this site by dialing back on my posts. How would that work? Well, it will allow me to produce more quality content and not get overwhelmed. My goal is to create one blog post per week on relevant information that I truly care about.
Lastly, I want to continue to travel in 2019. Even if it’s just small weekend trips or some nice, long trips I want to feel inspired by travel the way I used to be. I also want to make sure to not get stressed in the details. I am a major planner, but it’s so nice to just get somewhere and see what’s available instead of planning every little detail.
How to Set Your Intentions
My recommendations for setting goals or intentions that you will stick to are to look at what happened in the previous year. Lay out what you liked about the year and what you wished worked out differently. From those lists create a set of goals that you want for the next year. The trick to sticking to those goals is to think about how you will attain them. As you can see from my goals above this shouldn’t be crazy detailed. You want to create a general way that you will reach your desired goal.
Let me know in the comments what your new goals or intentions are!